As options for family planning and fertility treatments expand, LGBTQ+ couples and individuals have many pathways to parenthood. This includes assisted reproductive technology, fertility preservation treatment, and using a donor or surrogate.
These options come with legal and financial implications, so careful research and planning is part of the family building process.
Here’s an overview of your fertility options and resources to support your journey.
For individuals and couples with female anatomy, donor sperm may be used to have children biologically through intrauterine insemination (IUI) or in vitro fertilization (IVF). You can obtain donation sperm from a known or anonymous donor.
There are fewer legal complexities when using donors from sperm banks, as the donor will have already surrendered their rights as a parent.
If you use sperm from someone you know, be sure to consult with a lawyer in your state about the relational complexities and parental rights.
Individuals and couples with male anatomy can have children biologically by using an egg donor. As with donation sperm, you can use an egg from a known or anonymous donor.
There are similar legal complexities, so consult with a lawyer before starting a family. IVF is the most common process for having biological children using an egg donor.
When male couples conceive through IVF, the embryo, or fertilized egg, is implanted into the uterus of a gestational carrier. This individual will carry the pregnancy to term but is likely not related to the child.
When pursuing this option, it’s important to have clear expectations about your relationship with your gestational carrier.
Some parents-to-be want a close relationship with their gestational carrier while others prefer more distance. Either approach is valid. It’s all about what feels most comfortable for you.
Intrauterine insemination (IUI) is a process in which sperm is placed into the uterus. It is often used by female same-sex couples or male same-sex couples using a surrogate.
Like a gestational carrier, a surrogate carries a pregnancy. However, they will also donate their eggs, and will therefore be genetically related to the child.
In IVF, an egg and sperm are fertilized in a lab and then implanted into a uterus. It may be performed with donor sperm or eggs.
Some LGBTQ+ couples pursue co-maternity, or reciprocal IVF. In this process, one partner provides the egg and the other carries the pregnancy.
This allows both partners to have a biological connection to their child even though only one will be genetically related.
Procedures such as sperm or egg freezing allow individuals to extend their family building timeline or preserve family building options after gender confirmation treatment.
The physical process of transitioning — including hormone replacement therapy or gender confirmation surgery — may temporarily or permanently affect your reproductive function.
Hysterectomies performed in a female-to-male transition or the removal of testicles in a male-to-female transition will impact your ability to have children biologically.
Researchers are still learning how testosterone and estrogen therapy impacts reproductive health. Ongoing use of testosterone and estrogen can stop sperm production and ovulation.
However, some research indicates that these effects aren’t permanent, and that hormone therapy doesn’t preclude having biological children in the future.
If you are considering hormone therapy or gender confirmation surgery, discuss your child-bearing options with your doctor prior to treatment.
Since there are many considerations unique to LGBTQ+ family building, it’s important to understand your goals and account for the complexities in advance. All goals in this case are valid.
Many fertility treatments are a significant financial investment. Determining how to pay for treatment is part of the planning process. There are ways to reduce the costs.
Many organizations offer financial resources for LGBTQ+ family-building. View Family Equality Council’s list of grants.
Your choice of fertility clinic affects the total expenses. As you explore your options, ask clinics about financial assistance and payment plans.
Researching your state’s laws about parental rights is essential when using a donor or surrogate. In some states, surrogates automatically receive parental rights as the biological mother, which need to be terminated through a legal process.
As a starting point, use Movement Advancement Project’s interactive map to learn about your state’s parental recognition laws. In addition, consult with a lawyer who has experience working with LGBTQ+ families and expertise in your state’s legal parentage procedures.
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